Have you ever wondered why we manage to talk ourselves out of things? Why we manage to bring doubt into a perfectly simple situation?
If your answer is yes, then that is probably the same for everyone, albeit some are better at dealing with self-doubt than others; but it doesn’t mean to say that they don’t experience it. Just because something makes you nervous doesn’t mean to say it should scare you too! Let’s remember that for later on. For now I’d like to touch on a book that has really brought me some helpful reminders over the last few weeks, it is called, ‘The Big Picture’ by Tony Horton. Tony Horton became world famous for being at the forefront of home fitness with his program called P90X, on the face of it you’d look at those TV ads for how to change your life and wonder if it works. Well I can tell you first hand that it does, but that’s not what we are here for, over the years he has refined his craft and changed the workout plans more and more, releasing P90X2, P90X3 and P90, which is the latest in the line of fitness schedules designed to change your body. What is left out of the marketing, probably because it can’t be explained in an advert are the mental changes that you go through doing a fitness program. If doesn’t matter if it is a home DVD fitness regime that you are doing or heading to the gym and being surrounded by people all striving for the same goals, you are all getting mentally stronger by just being there.
This brings me back to Tony’s book, I am reading it for the second time in 3 weeks and the reason for this is because I think what he is saying is everything I have been thinking for a while now but haven’t been able to articulate. Tony nails every aspect of living your life well and seeing the ‘Big Picture.’ He talks about applying simple laws to your life to govern your though trials and tribulations, successes and failures; but the one that resonates the most with me is Law Numero Uno! ‘Do your best and forget the rest.’ Never has something been so eloquently put. In other words get up get stuck in and forget about the things that were troubling you from the start.
Over the last few weeks as I have been doing training programs with people I have never met before, being in a room with 12 other people; having to talk and interact as well as teach has been a huge experience for me. Now I didn’t have to go to the training, I didn’t have to sign up and study and get qualified, but I did because I had a desire to share my health and fitness journey with others. Becoming a personal trainer is the best way I can become qualified to help, ‘pay it forward,’ to make a difference in the lives of others. The more I get into the training the more I realise that dealing with big groups of people is going to become a daily thing for me, and I am okay with that, but I wouldn’t have been a year ago. In fact a year and a half ago I used to manage staff, sometimes have to hold briefings in front of 20 people, and you know what I was never very good at getting my point across, I always got lost in my own head. If only I had Tony’s Law 1 stuck in my head then I would have done a better job. These past two weekends I have had to put myself out there, I’ve made mistakes and I have had an awesome time doing it. I have learned so much and I have been able to get confidence from that. You may be wondering how I managed to get confidence from mistakes I made in front of a group of people, well in my view people are just people, everyone is human and so we can’t be that far away from each other on a feelings front. If you are nervous, there is every chance that they are too. Whether you are nervous about speaking to a large group of people or nervous about trying something new, nervous about a job interview all you need to remember is Tony’s first law. People are just people, and if you are scared of looking stupid you just have to remember that everyone is human.
I remember sitting in English classes growing up, time and time again there would be those sessions where we would be reading a book like Jayne Eyre or something that we had to write about; this meant that we would need to read out loud, not simultaneously of course, but separately. I saw many people crumble under pressure in these types of situations and guess what, it happened to me and recently too! Just the other day I started to read something motivational to a person, just one person! And I got so caught up in thinking about what they were thinking that my brain just stopped. Instead of doing what I used to do at school, which was letting my brain stop in mid flow and flutter I stopped and re-grouped then continued.
It wasn’t perfect and guess what, neither is life, you just have to be there and be persistent, stop doubting yourself and things will happen. We learn to fear things from a young age and living life to it’s fullest shouldn’t be one of those things to fear, if you adopt the, ‘do your best approach’ then you can’t go too far wrong. I think I’m pretty tapped out for this post, but check out this video to see what I mean about Tony’s approach to life, some may see him as a bit OTT, and maybe he is at times; but he has had a profound impact on my mentality over the last few months and I’m sure given a chance his wise words will help you too!
Hello again everyone! I hope that you have had a good weekend? Mine has been very productive and full of very cool people! So much progress has taken hold of my life over the past few months and I can honestly say that my journey into health and fitness is only on the surface; there is a whole other world that I need to explore. This world has been built and founded on people like the ones I have met this weekend, young people looking to make a change in the world for everyone that wants to make the most out of their life.
That leads me to some sad news that has hit the fitness world and that is of the passing of Greg Plitt, some of you probably have never heard of him, but you should watch a couple of his YouTube videos if you can. He was a clever guy, he knew that he had the body of a demi-god and had the knowledge to back it up. A personal trainer to celebrities, a fitness model and to some probably one of the most admired motivational speakers in the world of fitness. If you don’t believe me then watch one of his videos and listen to how passionate he was about making change and overcoming the mental issues that hold us back in life.
He was a true champion and one that will be missed, rest in peace Greg!
His message was always a positive one and whilst you might think he was a bit over the top with the workouts without a shirt he was sending a solid message to all, you can all achieve what you want in life, with hard work, mental strength and perseverance. You might be sitting there thinking, “Well that’s all good but how?” The answer is simple, if you are unhappy with any aspect of your life at the moment, if you truly want something so bad you can taste the dream, the vision in your mind then you’ll have to change something to make it happen.
Change is something that happened to me at the end of my last post, if you haven’t read it well then stop here and go read it… Then continue ;-)
I went through some ups and downs at that new high school and to sum it up I tried too hard to make things work and they didn’t, I was wasting my energy trying to be liked by everyone and had to figure out that if I had made a stand on the very first day when someone messed with me, then I wouldn’t have had any problems. Eventually I left it too late and when I did decide to act there was no one that would fear me, everyone could just gang up on the unpopular kid. I changed schools soon after and never gave being disliked another thought, I just tried to get stuck in to making new friends and trying not to push the friendships too hard. It worked for a while but before long I was suffering from some of the same insults and problems; it went on for while until one day when I just gave in to my anger and lost it. I lost it and lost a friend in the process, he was only trying to be funny and dish out some comments, then a few weeks later I did it again to someone else. I stood up for myself in front of everyone and things were immediately different, people could see that I was serious and when I got angry you didn’t really want to get in my way. The change helped but don’t for one minute think I am advocating that you become the office bully or even the school bully on the back of it. What I did was I changed something that I was sick of, I was sick of people thinking that I was a push over and in order to fix it I did something about it.
If you are sitting there trying to kick a habit or thinking you’re your New Year’s resolution hasn’t quite worked, don’t panic!
You have another day tomorrow! Another moment when you open your eyes to commit to the change that you want to make in your life.
My first bit of advice is not to leave the house with an unmade bed, bear with me on this. I used to leave my bed a mess all the time, but then I one morning I woke up and made it look nice again. When I got into bed that night it made me feel like I had accomplished something. Now I make my bed every day. It took a while to get into the routine, but the way I saw it at the time was that a couple of minutes doing something well means that you start your day having accomplished something. It sets your mind straight, you might be reading this thinking, “well I make my bed every day and I don’t feel different.” Well of course not because you haven’t made that conscious change, you have done it for a while, so if you make you bed already then try and find something else that makes a change. Try a 5-minute stretching routine, try and prepare your lunch instead of buying it at work. Just try something small that makes something later in your day easier and you won’t regret it. It doesn’t have to be perfect, you don’t have to spring out of bed and do 300 press ups, just make 1 small conscious change every day that edges you close to where you want to be mentally and physically.
You can achieve what you want to in life, you just need to apply yourself and make it happen!
I’ll leave you for today with some words from the man himself, “Every action has a purpose, when every action has a purpose then every action has a result.” Greg Plitt
Have a safe evening my friends and remember to chase that dream and treasure every moment you can!
Brendan is the owner and head trainer at Raw Motion Fitness.