I hope that you've had a great week but if you haven't I hope you can read this post and take solace in the fact that you are deserved of this wonderful blue planet.
I've been meaning to write this piece for a while and kept putting it off for one reason or another. I think the thing that I struggled with at first was how this ties into the blog and how it relates to what I am trying to do here.
Most people that visit this blog might not even realise what the website is actually here to do. The main aim is to put out quality meaningful content for you that is related to fitness. I also offer online coaching that centres on a holistic approach to life. Call it life coaching if you will.
Every day I help people develop their confidence and help them on their journey through life. It is something I am very passionate about because I know what it is like to be down and out about different aspects in life; body image, money, self efficacy the list goes on.
Fitness to me is not just a state of the body. It is also a state of mind. I would never be where I am today if I didn't first change my thoughts and relationship with myself.
I hated my body and myself for a long time, I hated waking up feeling like a beached whale, I hated looking at myself naked, I hated what I had become. I looked at the world around me, the magazines on the shelves with rippling six packs and quick fat burning tips, thinking that I was not worthy of being happy with myself.
To this day I'm still very conscious of body image. I have a song that helps re-align my thoughts when I get worried about my body, it is a song that resonates with me on so many levels because it was written by an artist that I follow closely (Immortal Technique).
The story behind the song is that he was sat with a friends daughter one day; she was upset as she felt that she would never be as pretty as the ladies in the magazines that she was reading. He wrote the song to remind her (and everyone) about natural beauty.
I’ve heard the song live and every time I hear it I get goose bumps. I've embedded the YouTube video for you to listen to below. Whilst you might not be a hip hop fan or a fan of Immortal Technique's political opinion he speaks the truth and I find it uplifting that he reminds us all to be true to ourselves.
“And if you’re healthy they make you think you’re a manatee
Look how they created this euro-centric insanity
Got you brain washed to the point you bleaching your skin
Blind to the truth, you can’t see the beauty within
Cause ain’t nothing with exercise to tighten your thighs
But there’s something wrong with contacts that lighten your eyes."
There is a difference between being healthy and being what is thought of as healthy these days. (Remember when I talk about health I am talking about state of mind and body). The other day I was flicking through channels on the TV and there was a reality show of young girls (10-12 years old) caked in make up, it made me think that the kids today are growing up with a completely distorted sense of beauty. We need to be proud of who we are and when we want to make changes to our bodies we should do them for the right reasons for health and longevity.
“Their lies can’t fade your beauty
You gotta know who you are
Stay strong and always remember
The truth in your heart
Don’t forget there are those who
Benefit from your scars
And who deny’s what’s natural."
Spend time investing in your health the right way with good nutrition and focusing on positive exercises to keep you feeling great, feeling confident. I can’t tell you how much more confident I feel for being the healthiest version of myself. Too many quick fixes are created to counter-act a manufactured insecurity. We are all going to get wrinkles, we are all going to have body fat in places we don’t want it. I’ve got loose skin that annoys me each day, but I am learning to embrace it and enjoy the fact that I can get up in the morning with no pain and I can breathe walking up a flight of stairs.
“These magazines got you caught in a hustle
Cause when you starve yourself
Your body doesn’t burn fat it burns muscle."
I’m not trying to be political with this post. I just wanted to share my thoughts on the way the world is when it comes to beauty. I don’t mean to offend with my words I mean to encourage. I mean to encourage positive change in people’s lives that gives them the happiness that they deserve. Part of that process is acceptance of oneself; accepting that there are things that you can change and things that you should embrace.
I hope that you can accept the truth I speak here.
Be true to yourself, have a great weekend - STAY STRONG and KEEP MOVING!
Brendan is the owner and head trainer at Raw Motion Fitness.